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Your Saboteurs cause all of your stress, anxiety, self-doubt, frustration, restlessness, and unhappiness. They sabotage your performance, well-being, and relationships.
The FREE Saboteur Assessment is your first step to conquering your Saboteurs—identifying them, exposing their lies, and limiting beliefs so you can lead a life of purpose and achievement.
What are the Saboteurs?
Saboteurs are the voices in your head that generate negative emotions as you handle life’s everyday challenges.
Formed in early childhood, these Saboteurs helped you survive physically and emotionally as a child. However, they significantly limit your potential as an adult, as they represent the automatic patterns in your mind for how to think, feel, and react, instead of responding.
The first step in weakening your Saboteurs is to identify and expose them, as you can't fight an invisible enemy, or one pretending to be your friend.
Meet The Judge, your master Saboteur
The Judge is the universal Saboteur that afflicts everyone.
It is the one that repeatedly beats you up over mistakes or shortcomings, obsessively warns you about future risks, wakes you up in the middle of the night worrying, and gets you fixated on what is wrong with others or your life, etc.
Your Judge activates your other Saboteurs, causes much of your stress and unhappiness, reduces your effectiveness, and harms your relationships.
The accomplice Saboteurs
The Judge works with one or more Accomplice Saboteurs to hijack your mind and cause most of your setbacks. Do any of these seem familiar to you?
Avoider
Focusing on the positive and pleasant in an extreme way. Avoiding difficult and unpleasant tasks and conflicts.
Controller
Anxiety-based need to take charge and control situations and people’s actions to one’s own will. High anxiety and impatience when that is not possible.
Hyper-Achiever
Dependent on constant performance and achievement for self-respect and self-validation. Latest achievement quickly discounted, needing more.
Hyper-Rational
Intense and exclusive focus on the rational processing of everything, including relationships. Can be perceived as uncaring, unfeeling, or intellectually arrogant.
Hyper-Vigilant
Continuous intense anxiety about all the dangers and what could go wrong. Vigilance that can never rest.
Pleaser
Indirectly tries to gain acceptance and affection by helping, pleasing, rescuing, or flattering others. Loses sight of own needs and becomes resentful as a result.
Restless
Restless, constantly in search of greater excitement in the next activity or constant busyness. Rarely at peace or content with the current activity.
Stickler
Perfectionism and a need for order and organization taken too far. Anxious trying to make too many things perfect.
Victim
Emotional and temperamental as a way to gain attention and affection. An extreme focus on internal feelings, particularly painful ones. Martyr streak.
Origin of the Saboteurs
Saboteurs start off as our guardians to help us survive the real and imagined threats to our physical and emotional survival as children. By the time we are adults, we no longer need them, but they have become invisible inhabitants of our mind.
Our Saboteurs’ patterns of thinking, feeling, and reacting become soft-coded in our brain through neural pathways. When these neural pathways are triggered, we are “hijacked” by our Saboteurs and instantly feel, think, and act using their patterns.
But Aren’t They Good for Me?
Your Saboteurs claim they are good for you. For example, your Judge tells you that constantly badgering you over your mistakes and shortcomings causes you to improve and achieve.
We all know that pain is good for you. If you put your hand on a hot stove, it would be good to feel pain, so you take corrective action.
Negative emotions, similar to pain, are only helpful for a quick second to alert you. But if you stay stressed, frustrated or unhappy, you will be tunnel-visioned and not capable of finding out the best solution to the problems, which your positive brain can do.
So if you’re in negative emotion for more than one second, your Saboteurs are holding your hand on the hot stove and complaining why life is so hard.
The Three Muscles of Mental Fitness
To conquer your Saboteurs, you need to exercise and build three mental muscles.
Saboteur Interceptor Muscle
If you’re in negative emotion for more than a second, you’re in Saboteur mode. Label your thoughts and emotions in that moment as Saboteur and let them go. To be able to do that, you need to have studied your Saboteurs and discredited their lies and limiting beliefs.
Self-Command Muscle
10-second PQ®️ Reps are powerful ways to command your mind to quiet the region where your Saboteurs live, and activate the region where your Sage lives. So every time you intercept your Saboteurs, do PQ Reps in order to pause and choose a Sage response.
Sage Muscle
Your Sage is the one in you that handles challenges with a clear and calm mind, and positive emotions. It uses the 5 primary powers of Empathize, Explore, Innovate, Navigate, and Activate. Once you’ve activated your Sage brain through PQ Reps, you’ll have access to these powers.
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